What Are The Hurricanes In Your Life?

With Hurricane Earl barreling towards the east coast of the United States and towards my daughters in Virginia Beach and Portsmouth, I have been thinking about how it relates to life in general. It seems that we have the same reaction to a hurricane that we do to a life event coming our way – one that we have no power over nor can we stop it from happening. Some of us ignore it and go on with our lives like nothing is about to happen, some of us run from it and others of us begin to plan and prepare for the worst case scenario.

I am wondering if people are reacting to this hurricane like they react to other big events in their lives – my guess would be that, yes, they are. We tend to have coping mechanisms that we learn as young children and they become habitual throughout our lives. Our beliefs fuel our behaviors which can turn into habits and our habits seem to rule our lives. It takes a major event or awakening of some type to get most of us to look at our habits and to change them. Sometimes they are changed for us as in the case of a natural disaster.

What would our lives be like if we were more aware and purposeful in how we lived? Would we plan better for “disasters”? Would we even label major life events “disasters”? Would we look at these things as inevitable? Would we be as likely to run and hide from them? Would we be more likely to take them in stride?

What are the hurricanes in your life? Are you prepared to cope with them? Have you even thought about how you will deal with them? Do you have contingency plans?

I don’t have the answers to many of these questions but there are a few things I know for sure about the hurricanes in our own lives.

  1. Be as prepared as you can be without overdoing. You do not know when they are going to happen. Have a plan of action.
  2. You cannot run and hide. You have to face them and work through them even if they are very painful.
  3. Have a support group around you that can help you through. Accept their help and friendship. Ask for help when you need it.
  4. Try not to over react. Be with your emotions. Experience them.
  5. Do not spend time dwelling on what might happen. Just create some readiness and then get on with your life.
  6. Be prepared to pick up the pieces and rebuild if you need to. Often our lives need a little creative destruction to make way for something new and better even though it does not feel that way at the time.
  7. Look for the silver lining. There always is one if you look hard enough.
  8. When you are down, doing things for other people is very healing. Look beyond yourself.
  9. Know that you will get through it and be a better person for having experienced whatever your hurricanes are.
  10. Don’t rush things. Don’t stuff down your feelings. There is a process to getting through life’s storms – let the process happen for you.

There are just my thoughts and musings. I would be interested in hearing your take on all of this.

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